Where do I go from here?

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Hey NewB3. I have only read up on your situation on this particular thread so if I am missing a bunch on your sitch, sorry. I just wanted to chime in what first came to my mind when reading.

As Starsky mentioned, you may be having a hard time really letting go of her to the detriment of moving forward with your own life. There is nothing wrong with holding out hope...most people here do. But what stuck out to me (again I only read the past 3 pages) was it still seems you are sitting around waiting for her to show signs of wanting to come back. Instead, you should be going out and creating a life for yourself that will DRAW her interest to you. Think back to who you were when you two first met. Something about your life/lifestyle caught her eye. Find that part of you again. Be the person she would be a fool to leave...and a fool not to chase after. its great you are having positive signs. Appreciate them and learn from them, but do not bank your future or sanity on them. You are going to have a lot more of those afternoons on the couch like you did the other day before she really begins to consider R. The other day was her raising an eyebrow, so to speak. It caught her attention. Remember, now that you are D, there really is no sense of urgency on her part to reconsider. Especially if she knows you are still single and readily available. She may be having second thoughts, she may not. But when she sees you happy and moving on with your life without her, thats when she will really begin to have those conversations with herself. People want what they cannot have. You can keep the door open, while at the same time move in your own direction.

Again, I may be way off because I have not followed your threads but it was just what popped into my mind.

Best of luck to you