I get alot out of reading these posts from others! It's a ripple effect and ends up helping more people than the one they post too.
I hope knowing that your H is still in replay doesn't depress you. Afterall he is home and that was a hugh step! This is a longer journey for some than for others.
So don't feel bad, my journey looks like a very long one! Hang in there, I think you are great and handling it all very well!