Idk, TLEE, you know your wife...but it could be that this OM is really a ... friend? I know that's delusional for 99.9 percent of people here. But - if your W has lost little girl issues, it could be a male friend gives her something a female one doesn't? IDK. I've had a lot of wine and am typing from a gut. Do you know if anything has been physical? And, do you have any reason to believe your W would lie to you about this repeatedly? I'm not saying she doesn't have a crush, and maybe I'm missing something, but what is the deal exactly again?
The online journal...
It could be a path to understanding and reconnecting. It could leave you feeling like you're standing out there naked for someone who doesn't deserve to know your thoughts.
Is your journal in response style, like this forum, or is it really just a journal? If so...man. I would jump at the chance. (If I believed my H wasn't truly sociopathic or messed up and manipulative and I thought he would be real...but I digress.)
If it is a journal of interior monologues and events you give each other access to...and you both get the chance to be authentic and share your experiences and thoughts...what is the harm? It could a) bring you closer, b) make you realize you're not for her (or vice versa)
But I think most of us here would love to have a chance at our spouse wanting to share, just share, anything, to be heard and have the chance to hear. Without pressure or agendas.
Could you do it without any expectations? Maybe to limit your 'speech' of each other and those buttons until a one month trial or so of just journaling about the other aspects of your life to see how comfortable you may be?
Mid 30's Psych-abusive M with violent tantrums from XH D 9/15; NC forever on
