My wife and I have been separated for 5 months--she filed for divorce the day after she left. As far as I know, there is no OM. I would be devastated, too.
As Rick1963 said, "She only cares about her."
Please, don't give up. This is going to take some time to play itself out.
I'll add you to my prayer list tonight!
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15