T2 is right on. You can always just say who you are and say that you are there to listen and learn. That's all you'd need to say.
You may be surprised though, hearing others' stories may lead you to open up and do some good venting. Also, YOU may indeed know someone there...but guess what? They are there, too! See what I mean? You may even find some good friends who will help you through this time.
Your h is going to be selfish and self-centered as long as he continues to drink. Hence his little head games; he is trying to keep the focus on himself and his wants and needs. H thinks he is the center of the universe right now.
You need to make yourself and your S the center of your own universe. Take care of your needs. Take care of your son's needs.
Eat right. Exercise...even if it's just taking a walk with S. Get the right amount of sleep. Take care of your home. Visit with good friends.
Hang in there and do try alanon. It can't hurt. If you don't like it, no one will force you to go back. What have you got to lose?
Keep your faith. Prayers and hugs going out to you, Akgal
