I know I am not supposed to even ask .... but the thought does crop up every now and then "I wonder how she is doing and if this is what she wants". Months ago, I did ask if this is what she wanted and she said "No" yet her actions all scream yes this is what she wants, mainly me out of her life. So far nothing has changed except I have a lawyer working on my behalf. Strangely, she has not mentioned this once. Oh well.
I know what the vets will say - take the focus off her - who cares what she is doing or thinking. Don't look back, etc...
