Cathy, Everything I said in the post above is a SUGGESTION not an order...it came across a bit orderish...is that a word, orderish?...lol...anyway, that's not how I meant it.
Your H is in pain, but so are you. You need to really focus on doing what you feel you need to do for yourself and your S.
Cathy, I can tell you that if your H decides to get sober, you will find that he is a new and much better man. He will love you so much more for having stood by him and having supported him in his attempt to get sober.
If you can not handle waiting for him to make the decision to sober up, however, don't put yourself through more than you have to go through. YOU are the most important person in this picture right now...because YOU have to take care of S and if you don't take care of YOU, then YOU can't take care of S.
Only you know what is really best for you.
Trust yourself. Again, these are suggestions, not orders.
