Alpha One, Alpha All #

[alpha99]

Hi Toots,

Thank you very much for that valuable information. I am going to look right into it now. I will research collaborative law also.

I have been dead against use of L's as I've said, but this is not something I can't get wrong.

I suppose a consultation with L will answer this but I was wondering whether I could find out my rights, where I stand with regard to W claiming my 'house money' further down the line if a D should come about, and have that in place (a plan of action, or maybe confirmation that she couldn't take it, some signed agreement solely regarding the house etc) and then hold it back until a point where it may be needed (D proceedings)

I am all for protecting myself over the house. I just don't want to pre-empt D proceedings or reach a point where W (or MIL) thinks well, we might as well save £££ and do the divorce now since we're selling the house.

W and I are definitely getting on better. As I wrote before, even conversation over house sale was not strained. W may just be being nice to get what she wants. She certainly hasn't shown any clear sign of wanting to work on M. She didn't mention divorce throughout house conversation though, more 'you're living with your parents and I'm in my house, so we don't need that house just sitting there.' Again, I'm not daft enough to neglect the idea she is just being nice to get her £££.

Our short conversations on other non important subjects are improving with each interaction as well though. I know OM is still in the picture to whatever degree. I know that any sort of reconciliation (even the makings of one) would at the very least be many months away - if at all. I just want to get things right and not blow it at a crucial point.

Obviously handling this in a way that protects myself whilst not unnecessarily antagonising W is key.