Quote: Please don't judge me, please don't make me wrong for letting H stay. I know my H is a mess, I know a lot of people wouldn't put up with this kind of crapp. I wanted to kick the cra## out of H last night. I wanted H do just go away!!! Thankfully he went to sleep/passed out.
Cathy, all of our WAS are messes... I don't think anyone has any right to judge anyone here on the bb. As for what people would put up with, NO ONE would put up with most of what we have and are putting up with. It certainly doesn't mean that we are wrong, but rather that we believe in our H's and rather than throw them and our Rs away, we would rather stick around for the healing.
Your H has let go or is letting go of the OW addiction. He is feeling all the pain from that. Hopefully, he will let go of this alcohol addicition, too. Letting him know that you are there for him, that you love him, and that you think he could be helped will do far more for him then throwing him out. Hang in there, girlfriend.
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
