Cath,

Loving an alcoholic...active OR sober...is a difficult and emotionally trying existance BUT the better you understand the disease and the psychological damage most alcoholics suffer the easier it is for you to have compassion for them.

Some alcoholics ARE truly unloveable people, some are however capable of accepting someone's love and only time and understanding of the medical and psychological impact of the disease will help YOU decide which one YOU decide he is.
T2