Have you given any thought to buying the AA 12 Step Book? You could hand it to him, say, "H, I love you. You ARE NOT the terrible man you think you are...in fact, I KNOW that the answers to all your emotional pain are NOT in alcohol, they're in sobriety. I know how difficult it is to believe that, but I also know that YOU know that drinking is NOT the answer it's just fuel for the fire of your pain. I'm here, I'm staying here for you and so is your son. Because even though you don't like yourself, we love you."
