My W's mother came to visit this afternoon. In the 1st few weeks after BD, my W went away on business for a week. My mother-in-law was my best friend that week. Both she and my W's father were also frantic. They couldn't talk to their daughter at all. She just shut them down if they dared mention the marriage. I think my wife was so angry because of the guilt, and I was just prolonging it, by "begging".
My mother-in-law is more in the dark than what I am generally. I have to fill her in on the status of custody negotiation etc. She wants us to get back together etc but is equally as powerless. She noted that I have calmed dramatically since those early days. I am probably guilty of breaking 1 of the 37 rules but I told her that I hope to deal with my issues for the sake of my own fututre, I would still like that to be with my W, but I dont hold much hope of that.
I also told her that I am sick of pushing to keep the mortgage on track etc. I won't let the bank foreclose, or the electricity get cut off, BUT I am not going to remind her either. Also, I'm going let her propose away at the next custody mediation session. So far my proposals haven't even been responded to. I am happy to default to enrolling in a school local to here if things are allowed to lapse (and really there is only a few months to organise any re-location).
Finally, I told her I am not going initiate a divorce.
Have I wrongly shown my cards here?
M: 6 T: 12 Kids: 2,4 BD: Jan 2015 S: Feb 2015 EA/PA confirmed: Feb2015/Mar2015
