I want you to understand something. You want him to quit drinking and he wants his pain to stop. If he stops drinking, his pain comes on full force. You have to give him something to help him to get through the pain and the answer you have is the Lord.
Kicking him out of your house, isn't the answer. You fought so hard to get him back and he is back. The message that you will send him is that you can not accept him and you are not there for him. Everything that you worked for and everything that you told him, you will throw out the door.
No, this is not an easy situation, but from what you described of him last night, it was the first time that all his walls were down and he was not afraid. He let himself reach out to his son without being afraid of rejection. Why? Because he couldn't feel the pain of being rejected.
You have the answer that he needs and that is the Lord. He has made alcohol his God. You need to be beinding the spirit of alcohol from him.
I can remember my mom doing something similar to my sister because she did not approve of her behavior. All that did to my sister, was make her feel judged and want to stay away from my mom. Why, because my mom wasn't reaching out to her with the Lord's unconditional love. She was reaching out to my sister with a judging kind of love. Basically telling her I love you, but not as long as you are this way. The Lord doesn't tell us that. He loves us inspite of our sins and our shortcomings.
My mom and sister spent years staying away from each other because my sister couldn't stand the feeling of being judged or looked down on. When my mom stopped doing that to her, that is when my sister started coming around and started dealing with her shortcomings because she new my mom loved her inspite of her shortcomings.
Yes, your husband drinks and it is a terrible disease, but kicking him out or anything like that is only adding to his problem. It isn't helping his problem because it doesn't give him an answer. The OW just accepted it as being a part of him. Yes, he does need to know that it is wrong and that he is killing himself while doing this, but he needs to know that he is loved inspite of it and that you are willing to help him to get through it.
I can not express to you enough the importance for you to get in that prayer closet and pray harder then you have ever prayed for this man before. You need to understand that this is a hold that satan has on him and it is a strong one and the only way that you are going to win this battle is through prayer.
