Part 18 - Creeping onward

[edz]

New policy I just made up..... LOL

No guarantees but I will try and if everyone else helps, it shouldn't be too hard.

It does make reading threads a lot easier, a year or two from now.....

I shall try to be worthy Many thanks.

[edz]

Takes a bow, I know wicked to the core.
Lol
Sounding good edz. Wish my social life was that good atm.

Sigh all the dudes have bolted. Rolls eyes.

Well you shall just have to post at me for the meantime then!

[Dawn70]

Sounds like you handled everything really well on Sunday, edz. Good for you. I so appreciate reading how far you have come and how you deal with things. You really are an inspiration to me in many ways.

[Sotto]

Hi Edz

Sounds good in respect of Sunday - well done. I think you're managing to stay pretty cool whilst your W flips and floops about and get's emotional. Steady Eddie - the lighthouse.

I have been reading Caliguy's sitch in MLC lately. His W is a bit further along than yours, but I think he has been handling things well too. You may be interested to have a look at this thread.

For sure it sounds as though your W is mulling things over and R isn't 'out of the picture' as it once was in her mind. That's all positive. And I think you should just carry on this track as you are. Pushing yourself a little further on the GAL front, being a great Dad, not putting pressure on W and so on.

And no expectations. Overall faith that all will ultimately be well - and no expectations.

Have a good evening! :-)

[Vanilla]

Edz

Thanks for your post on my thread, this is the recipe.

Ginger beef (best in a slow cooker)

Can use really inexpensive cut of stewing beef (for two or three) or reduced price chuck from Lidl. Cube the seasoned beef, then use red wine with either tomato juice or purée to cover (tenderises the meat). Sweat onions and garlic in a sauté pan can add spoon of ground spices, Marsala with turmeric can use paste if have that.

Ginger is key, use root fresh. Recommend a porcelain ginger grater (about 1.50 from ebay). Ginger reacts with aliminum so not so good. Grate a thumb of ginger and chop a thumb of ginger. Add the chopped ginger and onion mix to the beef and stir well. You can slow cook as long as you like, min 2 hrs (cheaper beef then longer and lower heat). 15 mins before serving add the grated ginger (for the aromatic portion) and a dash of lemon juice to release the flavour.

Can serve with rice or noodles or quinoa or baked potatoes.

Warning do not add English mushrooms they flatten the ginger flavour. Can use cider or cider vinegar to tenderise.

BFT will love the leftovers. Pat and purrs.

V

[rd500]

Hi Edz more positive signs which has to be good. Melos and steady snd all that but you have that covered at this stage. Positive thoughts for you. Take care. Rd

[edz]

Evening all

Well chilled out this evening swimming with son and he's in bed now while I have a nice glass of viognier here no worried Wilma's here.

W was quite chilled when I picked up son this evening she seemed quite happy even with me in her 'personal space' tonight. No expectations just leaving her to have space while I get on with baking this new me. We'll see what the end cake looks like in time.

Meantime just reached out to one of S's friends mums who was a joint friend before bd and who I took S's friend back to Saturday. S has asked could his friend have a sleepover here so I asked and yes his mum is cool with that, we had a good chat was nice to start talking with some friends from our marriage again. She was really impressed with what's been going on (yes she's the "wow" friend for those playing at home) and said I'm clearly vying for father of the year. I made a promise to myself in councelling that I'll be open on my depression so she asked and my answer was simply I had been in a horrible place with myself for a long time and I'm now just enjoying being a dad again she was really happy with that and both her and hubby are happy for friend to come over. I'll arrange a time when s is back from his break with w and mil/fil.

Other than that chilling out.

Thanks for the recipe v sounds fabulous will give that a bash this weekend

Wine recommendations?

Stay classy all

EdZ

[jim0987]

Hi edz,

More non-negatives in your situation and some positives.

You're clearly doing good and I've said this many times but you continually demonstrate real integrity - a much underated trait - and are a good example to some of the rest of us (by that I mean me).

You know what you need to do and others have already reminded you so I won't repeat it. Just remember slow cooked tastes better

I hope you enjoy your yoga class.

[Vanilla]

Couple of choices for Red. Italian: Chianti Reserva Edizione del Fondatore 2011from sainsbury £9 (superb) or slightly cheaper Sainsbury taste the diff Chianti Reserva 2013 £7.

Something heavier, even cheaper, needing decanting? Lasts for more than 1 day Lidl Gran Reserva 2007 Terragonia about £6.

No doubt you can recommend back. I loved the Pedro recommendation.

V

[edz]

Well good morning all.

W & S just left so on my tod again (working from home today which is lovely with all this sunshine in my window), again tomorrow as im off to go with w to a tutor (more in a mo) and in the office friday.

Good evening all in all last night, son wasnt too settled as he's a little deep in thought on the subject of what happens when you die (he's a deep 10 year old) but once he went off tucked him in and crashed out myself, had a good sleep.

Texted w this morning to see if she was heading round at 10 then got my usual morning done (no exercises this morning as I was feeding s and getting him sorted before work, will do it later or leave as im at yoga - gulp - tonight). W actually turned up at 9:30 apparently mil is round using the washing machine which spurred her to go early!

As I mentioned w/mil/fil/s are off to relatives this weekend so w gave me the key and asked could I feed her cat (sadly not a euphamism) so will be popping in, nice to see the other one again - miss her too, nice to be trusted as well. W did say she didnt know what to tell mil if she asked whos feeding the cat, just said tell her the truth, she said she'd go nuts, said well thats tough its your home but I dont want to cause issues. She's standing firm though (right now) that she wants me to do it regardless and she'll handle her mother. Not reading anything into it as she may well just avoid the conversation and say "a friend", either way not a biggie to me what she says, her action shows trust thats nice for me to see - made the whole "friends only" thing clear in the past anyway no need to dredge that up again.

Made w some toast and coffee as she hadnt had breakfast and had a headache, we were discussing s and his fears, separation anxiety (s not w) and a few other bits and bobs.

They're off for a day at various friends/playdates now anyway.

Will be around there tomorrow to pick w & s up to go up to a session with a potential tutor to help him with maths and some more advanced stuff w isnt confident in, feels good to be getting involved in this as its something pre bd i'd have left to w - yes, it shows a 180 to w but it also just feels good.

Other than that work for the rest of today possibly a haircut but may leave that until the weekend as I need to have an itenary since I wont have s.

Feeling ok, sunny and buoyant. Nothing on r from w but then wasnt expecting it and every encounter cant be about her opening up. I dont have the crash afterward I used to have which makes me feel Im doing better if nothing else.

Anyway, on with the day!