I'm catching up on your thread. You've gotten some wonderful people giving you good advice. I have no first hand experience with any alcohol support groups.
Cathy, you seem to really have understanding and compassion for your H. As Betsey said, look for the right group. One you will be comfortable in.
Are you serious,woman? You don't have a way with words? Go back and read your last post! You express yourself quite well. Don't even think that again!
When you can't make a decision because you are torn between your heart and your head, listen to the half with the brain.