Words fail me. I'm sorry BW. This isn't right. Just the way it is though.
What I was always grateful for is how poorly my STBX acted after BD. I've personally never been threatened by OM. He can sleep in the bed that used to be our marriage bed while I pay for the mortgage, they can drink and get high and talk crap about me. But that's not threatening to me. What would have been threatening is if she had started going to church, waited for the D to be final, had been reasonable and sad about it, grieved openly for our M but told me she had been hurt to bad to ever go back, then had met some widowed sunday school teacher and started a pure and healthy relationship with a good man when the time was right. That would've hurt.
This? This is just absurd. They can have each other. If the time comes she wants to be in a real committed M with a good man she can make some changes and look me up to see if I'm still around.
Of course, I have to keep from being righteous about it, because although she's across the lines these days I messed up my share, and it doesn't really matter anymore. I just need to be the best me I can so I can attract the person that will go the distance next time.
Long story longer, it stinks, but it doesn't prove anything about you.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
