I thought everything was okay....(Part 5)

[Mozza]

I read your post Mozza and while not at the point that I've fully accepted that R is not in the cards, I see that I'm okay (myself) not R. I'm still struggling with reconciling in my head what is best approach for my kids. I 'feel' like something is just pushing me to be patient with the sitch. However, I'm not sure if that's me trying to justify my stubbornness of not moving on or its in the cards of the fate of the situation.

What would you do differently if you didn't want to R?

I'm asking because after thinking about it, the answer for me was "not much". In fact, probably nothing. I've been saying this from the beginning to justify my approach to friends and family. Some want us back together, some not. All are worried that I focus on her and wait on WW. At the beginning, I was clear that I was hoping to R, but now I don't even bring it up. I just tell them that I do what's right: I'm cordial with WW, I don't pursue, I communicate about the kids, I take good care of them when I have them and then I focus on myself and my future. As you know, I'm even willing to date. I understand your perspective on this, so I don't even expect that you would date before D anyway. That's why I'm asking. I'd like to know also what different results you'd expect to get from your WW if you were to change your approach.