I thought everything was okay....(Part 5)

[TLEE86]

This might just be me, but I still get a bit of a desire to control in this tax episode, where you're trying to get WW to communicate your way. You could have let go or just gathered the info and give her a single chance to make a decision, rather than writing five emails and multiple texts, plus calls, perhaps to show her that being in touch is better for everyone. I'm not 100% sure, but I put it out there for you to consider.

I agree. I think its time we all re-read the DB Rules, and apply what is applicable. To me, this is pursuing. Not so much in a...I love you want you back way, but more...its annoying (sorry if thats harsh). I say this because my W bugged the [censored] out of me to do taxes. Why? Because all she wanted was the $ from it. And it irritated the [censored] out of me. The first time was ok, second time was ehh, and then it got to the point of...i don't even wanna talk about it. Ironically, now that we got taxes back, my W doesnt even want the $.

Point I'm trying to make is...yes, MCS, it makes more sense to do it jointly, you get more $ etc etc. But I see this 2 ways. 1, its irritating to her that you keep bugging her to do them, and 2) MCS is trying to control the sitch. Though your intentions are good, because you kept asking her to do the same thing over and over, it comes off controlling to me.

RE: Avoid future conflicts by giving her chances.

I feel that the opposite was accomplished. By giving her more chances to do them "your way" (no matter if its logical or not), your creating conflict. Filing separately makes no sense, but, has anything WAW done made sense in the past months?

In the future, probably pick a different battle. You win some and lose some, this one, i don't think was worth it. She needs to be held accountable for her actions, whenever she is ready for it, she will own up to it (you told me the same thing). Taxes, wont affect your M at all. Something I keep in mind all the time, will arguing about it help my M or hurt it. Food for thought. Thinking about you bud.