Cathy,

The ones who tell you to kick him out are the bad kind of groups... you don't want to be in a support group that is judging you for the path you elect to take. You will know within a few minutes if the meeting is something that is good for you.

I had to hit several before I found one that I could deal with. A support group should be like the BB--people who validate your feelings, give you helpful guidance when you ask for it (and sometimes when you don't), let you speak your mind and help you detach from the alcoholic and their problem.

I haven't been to a meeting since I lived in CA... mostly because I was able to separate myself from my brother (and my parents) emotionally. But I'm here to tell you that the good groups ARE out there if you are motivated to look.

I'll disagree with you on your perception that you don't have much to say. Cathy, you're a really nice person... a good friend and a great mom. And you love someone so much you're willing to watch him self destruct while keeping him in your daily life.

I'd say you have every reason to believe that you have LOTS to offer others. Don't sell yourself short, okay? Or I'm going to have to bring a few clubs up your way to knock some good sense into you! Don't make me do that, because my swing stinks...

Take care.

Betsey

"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."

Albert Einstein