LiveNow, I am so sorry you had a tough holiday. It is natural to grieve a little over these milestones. I like Job's idea about the letter. I journal a lot and some of the posts are to my H though he'll never see it.

As for living so close to XSIL I don't think I could do it. You are bound to feel better when you have your own space. It is very exciting to think of creating your own spot in the world.

Sending you good vibes. I have always wanted to take a meditation class. I will need to look into that. Is it hard to master?


M:25 years at BD w/ 2 daughters
BD: 5/14
Separated 6/14 - H moved cross country w/OW
D Final 9/17

“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”
― Maya Angelou