And, I like the idea of writing the letter, Job. I wrote my mom a letter after she passed away, that said everything I never got a chance to say. That was about 10 years after she passed. I carried around alot of guilt and sorrow, and after I wrote that letter, it was gone. A huge weight off my shoulders. Whew. I never looked back. I knew she heard me somehow, and that was enough. It might work for this, too -- as I sit here watching the news, where they just finished a story about not carrying around anger, and forgiving someone -- for yourself. The news story said that if you forgive, you are not saying that what the other person did was OK. Rather, you are saying that you have decided NOT TO DWELL on the situation any longer, and you will not give it any more energy. I know we all know this, but it's a good reminder.
Will be seeing my beloved nephews out west on Thursday, for a long 4-day weekend. Looking forward to that.
Me 53, XH 57 M 20 (+1.5) years, no kids BD June '13 H moved out July '13 Confirmed long-suspected PA Feb '14 H filed for D Nov. '14 D March '15
