Originally Posted By: Starsky309
Originally Posted By: Complex
What can I do to show her she will lose me for good?


Let her see you moving on down the path without her, not looking over your shoulder to see if she's following you.

What ACTIONS (not words) have you done since BD that -- if you were her -- would lead you to believe that you were losing good ol' Complex? What actions have you done since BD that indicate that you'll "be there no matter what" ?

Make two lists.


Moving on: Building more social network for myself, moving on with my job and making progressions, going to school...etc all the GAL activities. She sees I am working on myself, going to IC, doing what I do. I know she notices positive developments. No R talk in a while, no controlling Complex anymore, I let her live her life too. We are just roommates right now.
I feel like I am having a life myself, independent from my M. Definitely more independent.

Still "being there": Close contact to W family (of which some she doesn't know about), I don't do any actions in regards to D - still insist of living here, I am doing my duties around the house, and the biggest part is that our last R talk is not that long ago, maybe 3 weeks, in which she realized I am not very cooperative and it gave her the feeling I am blocking things. She knows I love her. The family time on Easter was like "nothing ever happened", which probably also shows her the life she actually does not want to have anymore, but I am still in it.

Last edited by Complex; 04/07/15 05:51 PM.
Me 32 (German) Wife 28
T 3yrs M 2yrs
Moved to US for W
No kids
BD 6/2014
In house separation
Confirmed EA 1/2015
(ongoing since BD)
OM not ready
Real D talk started 1/27/15