Complex #7 - the green(-card) mile

[Complex]

I'm unclear about what you mean Complex. I mean, I get that you don't want to be her "friend", ( but now, or down the road ??)

but you seem to think that being pleasant NOW on a daily basis is perhaps bad.

Meaning what? Being a jerk or arguing with her (again) won't make her care more about losing you.

What are you asking, specifically? What do you see as your options?

I don't think being pleasant now is a bad thing, it is a positive thing. But once she signs D papers or after the day we are finally D, I will not be her friend anymore. I just can't. Not until I am fully healed, which is most likely going to take a long, undefined, time.
Maybe I am too "friend friendly" with her right now and should rather be "neighbor friendly"!?

So my question is how can I make this point clear to her without stopping getting along with her?
Right now we are just sitting on hot coals, waiting for my greencard, while I just live my life, move forward, build new relationships with people around me, move on in my job, school, social network, etc. While she might think we can be friends after D since it is pretty amicable right now.