Glad to hear you are so confident on your anniversary. Mine was 2 days ago, on Easter while I was with all W's family. The anniversary just did not exist for me that day.

Regarding you legal issues: You could easily go to a lawyer and get a "Letter of intent" from H that he will file that after you filed. There for sure is a legal way around that. Just get informed.
I am more on your side on this tho, why would YOU file for D? But Calibri is right too, the way you positioned yourself in that discussion etc. I don't see any benefits from it.Always try to think of the outcome and the benefits and don't just defend your position, that is not going to get you anywhere. Be solution oriented. Be the strong and mature one.

Me 32 (German) Wife 28
T 3yrs M 2yrs
Moved to US for W
No kids
BD 6/2014
In house separation
Confirmed EA 1/2015
(ongoing since BD)
OM not ready
Real D talk started 1/27/15