Today I feel betrayed and decieved. I snopped and saw things I didn't like. I thought we were making progress but I was so wrong. I really want to say something to him but I was advised to really carefully think about what to say and to even write it down. I'm hurt all over again...
In case you don't hear this enough, it does get better. The pain isn't forgotten but it gets absorbed and then a lot of it (not all) dissipates,
and if the marriage resumes, forgiveness will need to be asked for from both sides and given freely when asked.
It's not = to saying "I now trust you 100%" but it is vital to begin the process of healing. You can be happy again, with or without h. Your pain won't be eternal IF you don't want it to be. (Someday that will make more sense to you than it does now).
When I faced the painful reality that my pain & anger were consuming ME
and it was making me Less available to my kids,
b/c I was just so preoccupied with it -
I HAD to release the anger. Not for my h! For me and for my kids.
Make sense?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
