Focused on Me and My Son 2

[Kramer]

Sherman,

I have been following your sitch, and have some questions regarding sending a letter to her work. Please keep in mind that I am a newbie, and I am asking out of genuine curiosity.

What she and OM did was definitely unethical and wrong. However, if you contact the employer, are you not being vindictive or petty? What purpose would it serve, other than going nuclear and "paying her back"?

Having said that, I must confess that a tiny part of me agrees with you. I am in a similar situation. My wife's OM is the head of IT for the university that they work at. He is not in her chain of command, but is responsible for all of the computer security. He authorized and obtained a company iPhone for her, and that is what they used to carry on their affair. And to top it off, they used Facebook messenger, which is not a secure platform!

I have seriously contemplated notifying his boss, and I have no doubt that he would be reprimanded or fired. That would bring me short term pleasure, but would ultimately be detrimental and self serving. I probably will not do it.