Overall, I have just straight pulled back. Following the DB/sandi's rules. I do read over them at least once a day to keep them fresh.
The best thing that I have done for myself is detach. GAL helped with that substantially. I feel a lot more confident overall, relieved actually. Even happier, for myself mostly.
W seems to be a little confused. Last night, we did hang out with, read to, and put S3 to bed together. I went out to relax and watch TV. She came out and sat next to me, started doing some homework. I wanted to watch the basketball game. She mentioned that she did not really want to watch it, as her team was not in it. At half time, I helped put S3 back to bed (he likes getting up a lot before finally falling asleep). Then I went and got my keys, handed W the remote. W asked, "Where are you going?" I responded, "I want to watch this somewhere else, I will be home later." and walked out the door.
I got back home, W was sitting on the couch with the laptop, getting herself tired to go to sleep. I did a few things in that area, and noticed she was just staring at me. Did not look angry, just staring. I just continued to be busy.
At night, S3 got up and came to sleep in bed with me. After a little while, I noticed W came in and joined in bed as well. I did not let it get to me, just got up in the morning and got ready for work. W and S3 got up a little after I was finished. S was sitting on the couch, I just sat next to him to eat my breakfast and hang out with him. W brought me some coffee and sat down. She asked me, "Why are you letting S3 sleep in bed with you now?" I respond, "He has been falling asleep pretty readily recently, and it was the kicking and not sleeping that bothered me before. Plus I really just do not feel like getting up in the middle of the night."
I think she felt I was allowing him to stay in bed to spite her in the situation, of which I can see that. I did not get into it and she did not bring it up. She could have asked. When he does that, and asks where she is, I tell him, and let him know he can go down there if he wants.
All other conversations were short and polite. I checked the laptop to make sure she was not using it to talk to OM, she was not. She has her phone that she pays for now, but seems to keep that at bay when I am around.
