Quote: I think I just did a good thing here, called H to talk to HIM, not for any other reason. Possibly made H feel good, I feel better now.
I think that IS good. If you both felt better after your chat, that's a good step.
Just be careful not to get too caught up in what he is doing, thinking, saying. You need to be putting some of that time & energy into Cathy. I have a friend who says we are like a big pitcher of Kool-Aid ... pouring out what we have to others... and if we don't remember to make more for the pitcher, soon it is enpty and we have nothing to give... and if we water it down because we're too busy to make the real stuff, then we're giving out watered down "us". I liked her analogy even though I'd be hard pressed to drink Kool Aid myself... take care of yourself.
If you don't mind me saying...make that dinner just for you and S. The two of you deserve a just as nice a dinner. Let H be.
I admit I don't know a whole lot about the alcoholic thing--my H doesn't really drink very often and it was one of the things that I liked about him. I did grow up with an alcoholic who never admitted he was one and I remember my mom being very concerned about his reactions... and that is normal and natural and expected. But it made her a wreck sometimes, and us too.
Some days I just need chocolate. Save save it for my afternoons usually, once in awhile have in the mornings. TODAY is a chocolate morning. And I feel better!
This made me laugh! I went on a truffle binge a while back... and my friends were no help...they kept buying me boxes of truffles!
Now in my office, the asst. to our dept. keeps "the chocolate". She brings it to all meetings and she gauges our moods on how soon in the day we hit her tin looking for our little chocolate fix. Can you tell my dept. is all women?
