Yes Kat, that would have been a nice, gracious response. My mind was fixated on the legal issues that I called her about, so I guess that's my excuse for being a clod.
I just spoke with W about our taxes, and she was amazingly level-headed. She said we should go into a tax professional together, and see together what the difference in our taxes will be if we file together or separately. She also offered to let me buy her tax refund amount that she would get if she filed separately.
