Oh, my! I do hope the mother doesn't have any complications w/the birth of the baby. I'm sure you'll be right there and coaching her and giving her plenty of support if needed.
History appears to be repeating itself for your h. He's thinking about the past and the what ifs, should have beens etc. Hopefully he can work thru this and learn to enjoy his grandchildren. You are only as old as you feel. I hope that he will learn to embrace his life and know that what he's learn thru the years will help all of his children and grandchildren along the way. I know that my father was an older grandfather and he enjoyed his grandchildren very much. Your h is a younger grandfather and could do so much w/them as they being to grow up a bit and want to do things.
I think it's wonderful that the step children and grandchildren come over even if "pops" isn't involved w/them they know you are. One day, he may just surprised everyone, including himself, and warm up to them and begin to become interested and want to do things w/them. At least that is my hope for him and the family.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
