Coming Home

[mleigh4]

Cali - thank you for your continued support. Holidays and birthdays are rough, but so far I have been pleasantly surprised and happy with the results. I think offering H dinner out was perfect, back in his court now.

AJM - what do I think? Hhmmmm. I think I am a fixer, but have accepted that I have no control of this situation. So, I am fixing what I CAN control which is me and my home. I have realized that I got really buried in being a working mom, and didn't focus on me or my H, overall, my home. Don't worry, I won't stay there and dwell on that, there is nothing I can do about it now. With my H moving out, the negative energy left with him. It is like the sun has come out, the fog has lifted, and I can see each improvement bringing new life into my home and me. Not only the physical aspects, but the feeling of independence and empowerment I feel when I complete a project. Definitely my therapy.

Happy - In your posts I have seen your H do things just for you, and yes, poking his head in and out. You are right, we learn what it is we want and deserve during this process. I think it is best for us to stay detached and guarded until we know.....and I do believe we will know when it is time.

I must have made my post sound like I was wondering if H was starting to connect with ME. I don't think that at all and wouldn't even want that yet. We are nowhere near ready for that, especially me.

I think he is working on his connection with S and wanting to spend time together as a family. That is a change, a year ago he was clear about not being comfortable doing that. It is just something I have observed and wonder if he is starting to miss that family time. However, I still feel his moving out was the right thing, for all of us.