I am feeling good about my decision to let H handle D. It will give him as much time to think about things as he wants and I will never have to look back and wonde of I killed our M when he still had hope. It will be the first and last thing in our R he will have ever seen to taking care of and will not be able to claim victim status. I can feel good about this.
A friend told me she ran into him and he said 'we were working in things' - probably just the polite answer.
I am good with my larger decision - to D this man if he believes this is how I should be treated. If he changes his mind and wishes to look at his temper and bullying, take responsibility for his life, find his independence and all, if he wishes to CONSISTENTLY want in this M, willing to work for it - I will do my part to continue DR.
Otherwise. Happy anniversary to me, it was the happiest day of my life and no one can take that away. I have my self-respect and I know I'll be ok.
Mid 30's Psych-abusive M with violent tantrums from XH D 9/15; NC forever on
