Well, some of them have made the list because of both xh.

Drugs well neither did, illicit drugs. Had a bf that did once, it was a deal breaker.
Xh2 he would self medicate when in pain with large doses of over the counter. explained as prescribed by dr as ok.
Drinking well xh1 his family had a problem with it, and he could not stop at one drink all or nothing. He could not drink for his long perriods but when he started that was it. I decided it made him Alcaholic.

Some of the others are just values. Some say the kindness towards animals can be a show of true character. Abusers abuse no matter the specis.
Smoking dad died of smoking, so I hate it, also find it disgusting and unattractive.

I think some of that list are very basic ideals. I prefer some one with their own money but a job would be bottom line. No welfare people.

M 46 h54
Both married before
T 11y
Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads!
Ms 18 hs 26