Gwen, You didn't take a step back. You said what you needed to say and you even wished him peace on Easter. Will he delete the message? Probably not. Many of the mlcers will keep messages, cards, gift wrap, etc., just to have something that ties them to you. So, don't even worry about whether he keeps the message or not...it came from the heart and you meant every word of it.
You had to file for separation to protect you and your girls. You had to do this to protect your assets and finances. Filing for a separation does not mean you will divorce any time soon. It's a tool to protect both parties in the eyes of the law.
As for wearing your wedding ring...it's okay to wear it if you feel comfortable in doing so. After all, you are still married. What he does is of no concern to you right now. Do what is right for YOU.
It's going to take time for you to continue moving forward. You are only human and you love this man w/your all of your being. It's never easy cutting the ties, but there are no guarantees that he will be gone forever or if he'll return at some point. You are in limbo and that's a very uneasy place to be. When you are ready, you will move forward, but try not to remain stuck where you are at the moment. Life is waiting out there w/open arms to embrace you and your girls.
Please be kind to yourself. I think you are expecting way too much of yourself and it does take a lot of time to get your balance when dealing w/the mlcer and the loss of the old marriage.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
