I love that one as my H says the same thing. It just happened, but H didn't tell me he was talking to OW, that he was seeing OW, that he was dating OW, that he was sleeping with OW until well after the fact. So if it just happened, why didn't H tell me about it right away? If it just happened, why the secrecy?
Yeah it could "just happen" to anyone, but I know for me I couldn't cross that line. I was tempted to, but if I had, I would have been into the unknown and I was too afraid of that place! I wouldn't have been able to live with myself.
Maybe that's the difference between me and my H, I knew better, I knew what it would bring and I didn't want to become that person, I didn't/couldn't hurt my H.
On the other hand and in thinking back I was HOPING my H would cross that line as I THOUGHT it would be what I needed to finally say to H "enough" I've had it with you--because I had emotionally shut down from him. Boy was I wrong!!
That's why when other people are judging me, advising me I have to remember until they've been in my shoes, they don't know what they would do either.
