Quote: I think they may actually "think about" others, only they're doing it from their assumptions... so it's not really about us, but about the impression of us in their head, not on what we're actually saying and doing right now. Just my 2 cents.
So H thinks I'm doing this or that to him, "why does this always happen to me" thinking when it's so clearly not always about H.
I can finally see the difference, that comes with detaching, that it doesn't "just happen" to one person. It's the victim/selfish attitude that comes in here I think.
Is THIS something that can be changed? It would make a world of difference in my H's life, as well as others, if they could just get out of that mindset.
It's like a negative person trying to think positive. It's not natural and it's uncomfortable so it doesn't last for long, but with consistency you can change your thinking from that of a negative person to a positive person. I know I did it and I never thought I would be able to.
If H could just see that it's not always about H, let go of some of those thoughts, his burdens would be lessened. He would feel like a new person a different person, maybe, finally a happy person.
