"Infant it is my instinct. I can rationalise it as catching her before its too late."
No it seems like you're trying to correct another of her "mistakes" that you perceive.
"But *rationally* I suspect this is probably not a good idea. 1: its already too late 2: she is not receptive to anything I say 3. i am not really better, i just have some more clarity about why i was an arse"
OK, your right. So does this mean I should just let her go?
To answer my own question, I think the answer is Yes. Let her go. There is nothing to do now. Other than GAL etc. If we get back together, it will be just that. After fighting myself for the past few months, I am beginning to realise that the simplest advice, given to me at the start, was where I am back to now. Collating remarks from several sources and abridging - detach, move on, focus on you and if it was meant to be, then it will be.
M: 6 T: 12 Kids: 2,4 BD: Jan 2015 S: Feb 2015 EA/PA confirmed: Feb2015/Mar2015
