Quote: H takes everything so personally, thinks everything "happens" to him, is about him, doesn't think about anybody else, just himself. I even point it out to him once in awhile by saying "why do you think it's just about you?" H just doesn't get it.
Boy, can I relate to this, Cathy! You're right... you are doing an amazing job in a tough situation.
I'm thinking like Deb, that there's a bit of running back into the tunnel in addition to the depression and drinking... My H has has pretty similar behaviors and mindset (he doesn't drink, though).
I think they may actually "think about" others, only they're doing it from their assumptions... so it's not really about us, but about the impression of us in their head, not on what we're actually saying and doing right now. Just my 2 cents.
