Don't become a flopping fish. You've been in this spot before and we all don't want to see you hurt again.
However, it sounds promising. Time to do some HW. What is it that you need from HER to come back into the M? What things are you looking for her to change?
Did you get any "I'm sorry..I shouldn't have had A...etc?" Remember, there must be genuine remorse not on the sitch, but on what WW did.
I think if things continue to soften. Its time for MC, look around for some. How about Chaplain (diatribe, but a friend had the Navy Chaplain lay out what he was sacrificing with the A and it was enough for him to go back to W and R)
Its time to show TLEE 2.0.
M:36 W:37 T: 15 M:11 S6 D5 BD: 8/10/14 IDLY: 8/12/14 S: 8/13/14 (she left, I stayed w/ kids) D Mentioned: 10/15/14 Confronted about OM: 10/15/14 EA: ~4/13 PA: ~10/13 She filed: 8/15 (not final)