Maybe you need to think of this stage as "there only in body" LOL. Your H may be home, but sometimes he is not being responsible, especially with son!
Don't "expect" him to be helpful right now. Basically live like he is not there. What would you do with son if he wasn't? Your H doesn't sound like he wants any responsibility with dealing with S. So for now you must deal with it.
I'd say he is not just depressed here, I think you should add a little replay into it! Sorry I don't want to depress you, but just wanted you to know what I'm seeing.
You sound great, sound detached. AND THAT IS GREAT!
This is your H journey and all you can do is watch, LOL!
