It's a nightmare. Wake me up.

[25yearsmlc]

PS

read your first post if you are mystified by what was lacking in the marriage. There were several deep needs not being met. She felt unsupported in some important ways, she felt undesired by her h, she felt financially insecure, and unsupported b/c she was the bread winner (but she lost her job or quit? I"m not clear on the source of the financial problems and who does what, although it sounds as if you work part time and help0 with the houses)



It is very easy to blame an affair or an OM, but the fact is, YOU wanted out of the marriage not so long ago - and you hid money in a secret bank account.

Is part of why you are so upset, b/c you feel she pulled the trigger first, (& therefore she "wins")

or b/c you truly want to save THIS marriage?

Sometimes wounded egos are confused with healthy self respect, and there is a fine, shifting line between them...