"She may very well be criticising characteristics of my personality. Does this make her wrong or disrespectful? I think it is unrealistic that two people live together and dont comment on the fact that one of them never does any housework. If she were to post the truths "well i never once cleaned the toilet or did the floors etc", would she deserve criticism. I suspect you would end up calling her selfish, or self centered. So is this something she should change as well? I wish, I have and is basically a condition of ever getting back together. There are more examples of her self centred-ness aside from housework. The point was her self centredness towards housework was trival. "
You called her a pig. Deal with it rather than constantly defending why you did it and making sound like it was a positive thing.
"No - I am not her father, her father was absent in most respects. Does that mean a partner should not suggest ways the other might improve their chances at job interviews, presentations, etc. "
Depends on how you "suggest" those things. If you took it from the position of you "knowing better" than her, then you're her father.
"Lack of respect I have for her?? Thats rich. She's f**ing another guy and posting pictures of him and my girls on the web as her family."
There you go again. She lost respect for you BEFORE she started going out with the other guy.
"yes yes yes i know this is about me. truth is she may be incredibly flawed, but we are still talking about me. if her flaws are that serious, i can just let her keep walking. still my flaws will remain."
Again posting about HER flaws, etc. The only one you can change is yourself right now.
"HOWEVER, I GET ALL YOUR POINTS ALTRUISTICALLY, and there is truth to them. My ego is a problem."
You don't say?
"I will think about this more, although I already could write for a day about most of the things."
No you mean you could spend a day DEBATING most of these things. Bottom line is if you don't change, your situation won't.
"Infant it is my instinct. I can rationalise it as catching her before its too late."
No it seems like you're trying to correct another of her "mistakes" that you perceive.
"But *rationally* I suspect this is probably not a good idea. 1: its already too late 2: she is not receptive to anything I say 3. i am not really better, i just have some more clarity about why i was an arse"
You mean why you still are an arse. Sorry but that's how you come across.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
