It's a nightmare. Wake me up.

[koalada]

You'll find out that once you think you've "changed" what she criticized about you, she'll turn it around and criticize you for something else. You'll be running around in circles based on what she says.

Learn to listen to the important nuggets she says and change those issues.

Dear Mr Bond. English is not my mother tongue. So I guess I am sometimes lost in translation. Especially when I am tired. Sorry for being rude.

How can I distinguish between the nuggets and the fake gold? Without getting paranoid about every word she says and every move she makes? Isn't there the danger of reading something into it that isn't there? I mean, I am not a mind reader.

I really struggle with this. On one hand, don't change based upon on her whims, on the other hand change based upon the stuff she is really saying. And on the third hand the change is about me and not her.

And you are totally right about me being afraid of pushing her further away. While reading your post I hear : don't try to do it right, do it right. Again, this might be due to translation.

Thanks for your patience. I really appreciate it.