A lot to think about. I already know there is a degree of truth to many of your criticisms. Although you predicted it would be my response (which isn't an indication of inherent truth behind your criticisms) it is a little unrealistic. She may very well be criticising characteristics of my personality. Does this make her wrong or disrespectful? I think it is unrealistic that two people live together and dont comment on the fact that one of them never does any housework. If she were to post the truths "well i never once cleaned the toilet or did the floors etc", would she deserve criticism. I suspect you would end up calling her selfish, or self centered. So is this something she should change as well? I wish, I have and is basically a condition of ever getting back together. There are more examples of her self centred-ness aside from housework. The point was her self centredness towards housework was trival.
No - I am not her father, her father was absent in most respects. Does that mean a partner should not suggest ways the other might improve their chances at job interviews, presentations, etc.
Lack of respect I have for her?? Thats rich. She's f**ing another guy and posting pictures of him and my girls on the web as her family.
yes yes yes i know this is about me. truth is she may be incredibly flawed, but we are still talking about me. if her flaws are that serious, i can just let her keep walking. still my flaws will remain.
HOWEVER, I GET ALL YOUR POINTS ALTRUISTICALLY, and there is truth to them. My ego is a problem. I have been reading Zeus' thread a bit, which has helped me see the origins of some same personality traits, and importantly how they bled into my R.
I will think about this more, although I already could write for a day about most of the things. Although the last few years have been terrible, we did enjoy a great relationship at one stage. At any rate, she was my best friend, and we talked about everyting, including these personal realisations and introspections. It is very tempting to talk to her now. Infant it is my instinct. I can rationalise it as catching her before its too late. But *rationally* I suspect this is probably not a good idea. 1: its already too late 2: she is not receptive to anything I say 3. i am not really better, i just have some more clarity about why i was an arse
M: 6 T: 12 Kids: 2,4 BD: Jan 2015 S: Feb 2015 EA/PA confirmed: Feb2015/Mar2015
