Mozza, do you want to communicate more with your EX? I handle the kid time with mom the same way you do. I don't tell her what we're up to and I don't ask what they're up to. Ex sends pics and if I reply it's always something simple like "cute". Unless it's a selfie of her with the kids. Those never get a reply.
How do you guys handle birthdays? Events that are attended by people who helped support the Ex?
Hey Closer2. No, I don't want more communication with WW. In fact, she wants more and I cut it off. She'd like to have lunch every now and then. She sends me random emails to which I no longer respond. I only deal with kids stuff and as short as possible. There are three reasons. First is that I trust her as a mom (something more delicate for MCS) and that I don't need to know about every sneezing. It just works and the kids are well taken care of. Second, I just don't have the nerves to meet with her, as it brings down my PMA for several days even if it's just for 15 seconds (happened on Friday). Her presence reminds me all that I lost and makes me look at the past rather than the future. And finally, I don't want to offer her any support. She cut me off, then I'm out. She has to see what life is without me, not with me as a supportive friend, one that exchanges funny emails and reassure her that I'm not mad for instance.
The two birthdays came and went since BD. The first one was 3 days after she moved out, things were different back then (she pretended that there was no OM) and she came over to celebrate with me and a few friends. At the time, I wanted her to spend as much time together and see me in a new light. The second birthday was last month. D7 was with me and I simply did my own thing without involving WW. In fact, WW was a little upset that I was going out of town, meaning that she couldn't see D7 in person on the day. I didn't change my plans, but organized a phone call between the two of them.
If you want more information, let's take it to my thread to no longer hijack that of MCS.
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"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
