Today I feel betrayed and decieved. That ^^is not really new (the A was a deception and you knew you had been betrayed already)
so there's no point in picking the scab to find new sources of pain. You knew he'd had an affair and was still in one...
If you are not at a point where he's trying to come home (and thus you may want verification of his promises) And if you are not filing for divorce using adultery as grounds (hard to do and most states are no fault)
then what purpose is there in snooping? I have never seen snooping help a situation and that's probably why the DB books are against it. I understand the temptation but it's not healthy or good for you and it really is time for you to take some of the advice you get.
I snopped and saw things I didn't like. I thought we were making progress but I was so wrong. You were having expectations and those will get you most every time. Don't let yourself expect anything from him for now.
To emphasize that point some more I'll repeat it. Don't let yourself expect anything form him for now. You're setting yourself up for disappointment now.
Sandi writes about wives who stray but a lot of it applies to men who stray. They don't see your neediness and pain as something they want to be around.
Read those 37 (40?) points again.
I really want to say something to him but I was advised to really carefully think about what to say and to even write it down. I'm hurt all over again...
what purpose is there is confronting him when he's not trying to come home now?
You think he'll want to come home MORE if you confront him? Think again
The time for addressing those disturbing discoveries will come LATER...meanwhile
what are you doing to GAL? .
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
