Do not give that to your wife. It's is pointless and she will see it as pursuing and controlling. Are you still living together?
I can't see this getting any better whilst you are. Let her go. What you are putting yourself through now is not good for your sanity or physical health. She wants to be with OM? Then let her have him. Let her go. How long are you willing to put up being treated like a doormat? 1 year? 5 years? It will go on as long as she wants it to at this rate. 2 men wanting her. How flattering. F@ck that Peter. Your worth more than this. Crumbs on the floor that's all she's giving you. Man up and take back control of your life. Cmon!
Me:40 W:35 D:8 T:13 M:10 WAW: 7/14 PA Discovered: 1/15 at least 6 months Moved out and moved on