The 24 “tasks” that a cheater must perform in order for you to heal from an affair
Stop all contact with the other person – forever
Be sensitive when your partner suffers from a trigger
Stop being so selfish
Take responsibility for your actions – and inactions
Stop trying to always be in control
Have some patience
Be trustworthy
Talk about things
Be honest
Show remorse and apologize
Acknowledge the depth of the pain that your affair brought to your marriage
Educate yourself about affairs and relationships
Figure out for yourself why you did what you did
Be thoughtful and reassuring
Stop being so defensive
Be loving and supportive
Stop thinking that the grass is always greener somewhere else
Listen – really listen
Stop blaming your spouse for your affair
Make your life and everything you do an open book
Check your anger at the door
Get some counseling or therapy
Ask your spouse what he/she needs from you on a regular basis
Gratitude or gratefulness
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M: 59 W: 53 M: 9 yrs T: 14 yrs No kids together but D30(hers), S27, S24, D21(all 3 mine) W moved out 11/18/2013 D-Day 12/14/2013 W moved back home 12/1/2014
