Completely Blindsided by Husband's Affair

[kathyw]

I have the day off work today. H is working. I decided to take the kids to the mall. Out of the blue H started texting me, wanting to know how my day was going, etc. I answered him in short answers. Fine, kids are fine. He just kept texting. "Where'd you eat lunch?" "Was the service good?" What did you order?" Just anything to keep the conversation going. It was really annoying.

Then he texts, "I still haven't listened to the Alan Jackson song Remember When but I looked up the words today. :'( " About 2 weeks ago I sent him that song (before I knew I shouldn't be pursuing him). I told him to listen to the song, especially the last verse because he has always said "Kids will grow up and move away, we are forever" That is basically what the song says too, that's why I sent it to him.

It was SO SO SO hard not to respond to him about the song, but I didn't. Then he closed the text by saying he wished he could be there at the mall with us. I again, did not respond to that text.

I feel awful for not responding but I understand that is what has to be done, for my own sanity.

It's hard, very hard.