Toots: at the moment it is difficult for me to meet those needs. I am torn between the "tough love" approach from the LBHS of a wayward wife thread and the wish to show her, that I care for her, appreciate her and show her my love. How can I meet the need for affection and romance while practising "tough love"?

I am for the first time in a sitch like this and I feel like stranded on a faraway island without any idea where I am and what to do to survive on this island. Please be patient with me. I will have better days, but today it is tough.


Me 46
W 45
S16 D14 S10
M 20 yrs in June T22
12/14 sleeping in different rooms
01/07/15 she said she wants a separation
02/26/15 I moved out